Got this from my cousin's blog describing what my dad is all about...
uncle omeng, as i described him to a friend last night, was "sobrang funny and mabait". the best thing i liked about him was his laidback view about life. he took everything with a grain of salt: he was not a worrier. he refused to worry and just took life one day at a time. he was very funny. did i already say that?
maybe what i really mean to say is that he was the source of joy in our lives. it was a joy seeing him. i remember i hugged him when we had that photo taken. i remember talking to him for a long time outside of the restaurant where cheska had her reception after baptism. i remember teasing him before i left na hindi pa n'ya ko na-shopping. i remember him saying sorry and me saying that's ok uncle, naglalambing lang ako.
I always remember my dad being the joker of the Espadilla clan, always trying to make everybody laugh till tears starts comming out from thier eyes. His an optimist, he stands by his moto of "Don't worry be happy" his a Tito, Vic and Joey fanatic no wonder all his punch line is somehow the same with the trio.
That's one of the many aspects I got, we got from our dad all 3 us got his genes. If your going to rank us whoes the one that resembles my dad the most that would be my youngest brother. My dad left him when he was 5 years old and I seem to wonder how did he grow up like my dad... funny, a little heard headed, got the angst in him, freindly (he got ton's of it), hardcore drinker the way he moves, the way he talks, he also got my father's fashion of going out the streets halfnaked (typical tambay sa kanto) that's why both of them are well tanned.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Friday, June 20, 2008
THE GREATEST DAD IN THE WORLD
What does it take to be a father?
Dedication? Commitment? Love? Hmmmm…
I’ll tell you about the greatest dad in the world and that would be my dad, of course you are going to argue about that and say your dad is #1, well we all have our bets... but this is my moment, this is my blog go create one for your main man, your go-to-guy… your hero.I haven’t seen my dad for 14 years, he’s in the states working his butt out to fulfill his dream of giving us a better life. 14 years and he didn’t pay us a visit? To answer your question, he’s an illegal alien (TNT it’s what they normally call it). It’s the only way, that’s his best option at that time there’s many consequences at stake, and it turn out to be a great decision. A decision that takes a lot of balls, he made a sacrifice of leaving his family in order for it to stay as a family.
A friend once told me if he’s on that position he would never do that he’ll rather see his family go thru the hardship rather than to leave. I respect his opinion, but I have to ask him if it’s ok for him to see his family hungry? The nightly fights of you and your wife arguing about money, you having a mediocre pay check? Diminishing friends because you couldn’t pay the money you borrowed from them. And your children asking you why can’t we have these and that, what’s the difference between a public and a private school? Eventually, you’ll end up looking back at the lost opportunity.
We are not rich, if it wasn’t for my dad’s sacrifice I would be a different person from today, probably I’m a loser right now. He was able to give us life and that’s what I like about him he never thinks of himself his not selfish. All of us we’re able to study on a private school went to college and got a degree. He provided us everything toys, expensive basketball shoes, clothes, gadgets, my car. He never said no to us, never. Everything our heart’s desire, he’s like a Genie.Another aspect of my father is him being faithful to us especially to my mom, He can have a second family there but he remains faithful to us. 14 years of dedication to your family that’s miles away from you. That’s what you call love.
One thing about my father is he was able to teach us is respect, we we’re never scared of him but we respect him a lot. Every time my mom tells him about us, arguing with one another, making stupid mistake, he will talk to us and dissect to every little details of the mistakes we made. We grow up without a father but I’m proud to say we end up being responsible. Me and my second brother got our degrees the youngest will have his soon. We never got into big troubles and we never gave our parents heartaches. Well, I have to give credit to the greatest mom on this world too for that, and that would be my mom.
Lessons I've learned from my dad…
“Walang taong bobo, tamad lang”
“Walang lalakeng umiiyak”
“Don’t worry be happy”
“Make sacrifices, work hard and love your family”
“Lahat ng bagay napagaaralan”
“Kung sila na kaya, ikaw pa!”
“Gumamit ka ng condom” – heheh ;)
MY DAD IS THE GREATEST, I WILL NOT TRADE HIM FOR THE WORLD!!!
I LOVE YOU PAPA OMENG!
I MISS YOU SO MUCH!
I’LL SEE YOU IN HEAVEN…
Dedication? Commitment? Love? Hmmmm…
I’ll tell you about the greatest dad in the world and that would be my dad, of course you are going to argue about that and say your dad is #1, well we all have our bets... but this is my moment, this is my blog go create one for your main man, your go-to-guy… your hero.I haven’t seen my dad for 14 years, he’s in the states working his butt out to fulfill his dream of giving us a better life. 14 years and he didn’t pay us a visit? To answer your question, he’s an illegal alien (TNT it’s what they normally call it). It’s the only way, that’s his best option at that time there’s many consequences at stake, and it turn out to be a great decision. A decision that takes a lot of balls, he made a sacrifice of leaving his family in order for it to stay as a family.
A friend once told me if he’s on that position he would never do that he’ll rather see his family go thru the hardship rather than to leave. I respect his opinion, but I have to ask him if it’s ok for him to see his family hungry? The nightly fights of you and your wife arguing about money, you having a mediocre pay check? Diminishing friends because you couldn’t pay the money you borrowed from them. And your children asking you why can’t we have these and that, what’s the difference between a public and a private school? Eventually, you’ll end up looking back at the lost opportunity.
We are not rich, if it wasn’t for my dad’s sacrifice I would be a different person from today, probably I’m a loser right now. He was able to give us life and that’s what I like about him he never thinks of himself his not selfish. All of us we’re able to study on a private school went to college and got a degree. He provided us everything toys, expensive basketball shoes, clothes, gadgets, my car. He never said no to us, never. Everything our heart’s desire, he’s like a Genie.Another aspect of my father is him being faithful to us especially to my mom, He can have a second family there but he remains faithful to us. 14 years of dedication to your family that’s miles away from you. That’s what you call love.
One thing about my father is he was able to teach us is respect, we we’re never scared of him but we respect him a lot. Every time my mom tells him about us, arguing with one another, making stupid mistake, he will talk to us and dissect to every little details of the mistakes we made. We grow up without a father but I’m proud to say we end up being responsible. Me and my second brother got our degrees the youngest will have his soon. We never got into big troubles and we never gave our parents heartaches. Well, I have to give credit to the greatest mom on this world too for that, and that would be my mom.
Lessons I've learned from my dad…
“Walang taong bobo, tamad lang”
“Walang lalakeng umiiyak”
“Don’t worry be happy”
“Make sacrifices, work hard and love your family”
“Lahat ng bagay napagaaralan”
“Kung sila na kaya, ikaw pa!”
“Gumamit ka ng condom” – heheh ;)
MY DAD IS THE GREATEST, I WILL NOT TRADE HIM FOR THE WORLD!!!
I LOVE YOU PAPA OMENG!
I MISS YOU SO MUCH!
I’LL SEE YOU IN HEAVEN…
A LETTER TO PAPA
Dear Papa,
Kamusta ka na? Kaw ha nag give up ka kagad, sana lumaban ka pa baka binigyan pa tayo ni Lord ng isa pang chance. Nagtatampo ako syo kasi iniwan mo na kami, hindi ka manlang nagpaalam sa amin, hindi ko manlang nasabi syo kung gaano kita kamahal, ska ung mga plano ko syo pag nagkita tyo wala na lahat. Sayang papa hindi mo manlang nakita ung mga apo mo puro babae, malamang sobrang spoiled sa iyo yun kung nagkataon. Papa, wala ng mag bibigay sa akin ng advice alam mo naman hindi ako nag oopen up kay mama eh. Papa miss na miss na kita, wala na kaming matatangap na overseas call from you every time na may occasion. Wala narin mga request, wala na kming go-to-guy. Hindi mo manlang ako nabigyan ng tips kung pano tumayo bilang head of the family, pero I’ll do my best I’ll see to it na everything will be in order here the way you want it to be. Ako na bahala sa mga kapatid ko sa ka kay mama alagaan ko silang mabuti. Papa hindi parin ako makapaniwala na wala ka na talaga. Hintayin mo nlang kami dyan sa langit ha. I Love you PAPA!
Love,
JR
Kamusta ka na? Kaw ha nag give up ka kagad, sana lumaban ka pa baka binigyan pa tayo ni Lord ng isa pang chance. Nagtatampo ako syo kasi iniwan mo na kami, hindi ka manlang nagpaalam sa amin, hindi ko manlang nasabi syo kung gaano kita kamahal, ska ung mga plano ko syo pag nagkita tyo wala na lahat. Sayang papa hindi mo manlang nakita ung mga apo mo puro babae, malamang sobrang spoiled sa iyo yun kung nagkataon. Papa, wala ng mag bibigay sa akin ng advice alam mo naman hindi ako nag oopen up kay mama eh. Papa miss na miss na kita, wala na kaming matatangap na overseas call from you every time na may occasion. Wala narin mga request, wala na kming go-to-guy. Hindi mo manlang ako nabigyan ng tips kung pano tumayo bilang head of the family, pero I’ll do my best I’ll see to it na everything will be in order here the way you want it to be. Ako na bahala sa mga kapatid ko sa ka kay mama alagaan ko silang mabuti. Papa hindi parin ako makapaniwala na wala ka na talaga. Hintayin mo nlang kami dyan sa langit ha. I Love you PAPA!
Love,
JR
A PRAYER
Dear Lord,
Why is it so soon? Why does it have to be now? Why My Lord? You never even give me the chance to say goodbye to him. Every time I pray to you, I always ask you to take care of him to keep my family healthy and away from harm, and if one of us has to go… let it be me. Lord, sana ako nlang kinuha nyo. I have been with my mom and my two brothers for 25 years and with my dad for 11 years. My dad has been deprived of seeing his family grow, being with them in times we needed a father most. My two brothers never got that experience especially the youngest one. Lord sana hindi nyo muna siya kinuha, sana binigyan nyo pa po kmi ng chance na magkita ulit at makasama sya kahit isang buong araw lang. Lord bakit? Ang dami kong pangarap sa papa ko, sabi ko pag nagkita kami ililibre ko sya, mag iinuman kami, mag bobonding kami, ibibili ko sya ng bahay, susuklian ko lahat ng ginawa nya para sa amin pero kinuha mo sya agad, ngayon… paano ko na magagawa yun? My dad has been good to us, he made sacrifices and all I’m praying for ever since is one day he’ll be with us again, to play with her 2 grand children, to see the success of his hardwork and sacrifices. Lord, for 14 years my father is so lonely and all he ever wanted is to be with us again but you didn’t allowed it, you never made it happen even just for a day. I want to be angry with you, but I know its wrong… You have your reason, and sometimes, most of the time we just can’t understand your reason.
Lord kayo na bahala sa papa ko, forgive the sins that he made, Maybe both of you are talking right now him asking you why did you get him so early, you have your reason Lord. Please bless him, I’m praying for you right now to forgive the sins that he made and bring him to heaven with You because that’s the only thing I’m looking to right now, to be with my father again in your Kingdom.Thank you Lord!
Why is it so soon? Why does it have to be now? Why My Lord? You never even give me the chance to say goodbye to him. Every time I pray to you, I always ask you to take care of him to keep my family healthy and away from harm, and if one of us has to go… let it be me. Lord, sana ako nlang kinuha nyo. I have been with my mom and my two brothers for 25 years and with my dad for 11 years. My dad has been deprived of seeing his family grow, being with them in times we needed a father most. My two brothers never got that experience especially the youngest one. Lord sana hindi nyo muna siya kinuha, sana binigyan nyo pa po kmi ng chance na magkita ulit at makasama sya kahit isang buong araw lang. Lord bakit? Ang dami kong pangarap sa papa ko, sabi ko pag nagkita kami ililibre ko sya, mag iinuman kami, mag bobonding kami, ibibili ko sya ng bahay, susuklian ko lahat ng ginawa nya para sa amin pero kinuha mo sya agad, ngayon… paano ko na magagawa yun? My dad has been good to us, he made sacrifices and all I’m praying for ever since is one day he’ll be with us again, to play with her 2 grand children, to see the success of his hardwork and sacrifices. Lord, for 14 years my father is so lonely and all he ever wanted is to be with us again but you didn’t allowed it, you never made it happen even just for a day. I want to be angry with you, but I know its wrong… You have your reason, and sometimes, most of the time we just can’t understand your reason.
Lord kayo na bahala sa papa ko, forgive the sins that he made, Maybe both of you are talking right now him asking you why did you get him so early, you have your reason Lord. Please bless him, I’m praying for you right now to forgive the sins that he made and bring him to heaven with You because that’s the only thing I’m looking to right now, to be with my father again in your Kingdom.Thank you Lord!
THE NEWS
June 17, 2008 midnight, I was on my way to meet a friend when suddenly I received a call from my tito, just by the sound of him I can feel there’s something wrong, he told me that he was trying to contact my mom but she was not answering, my tito is hesitant to break the news “telling me wag akong mabibigla at magpakatatag ako” just by that phrase I knew already that it’s about my dad, he wasn’t able to tell me directly and he passed it to my tita, my tita started crying and told me the wala ni si… and I started crying, it happened so fast, I wasn’t prepared I didn’t expect it to happen. I was the first one to know in the family. After that, I called my mom right away she’s at the hospital and I asked her if visitors are still allowed to go inside, she don’t want me to come anymore she told me that my dad had a heart attack and pray for him that’s all she knows. The line wasn’t clear so I decided to hang up and go to the hospital. I was driving, crying, talking to myself, to God and to my papa. When I arrived at the hospital I saw my mom crying hard talking to someone at the phone, my youngest brother was there he’s eyes full of tears I started crying again, all of us. My 2nd brother was the last one to know. That night of 061708 was the saddest day of my life.
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