Heartbreaker 101

A friend of mine sent me an email that might help me cope up on what I'm going thru right now. The email is regarding how to move on after breaking someones heart. I feel the erg of posting the article here it might also help someone who's with the same situation with me.

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How to Heal and Move On After Breaking Someones Heart

By Lisa Steadman, The Relationship Journalist

Given the choice, most people say they would much rather break up with someone than get broken up with. But if you've recently initiated a breakup, you know how tough it can be.
Just because you summoned the courage to end your dead-end relationship doesn't mean you're not feeling a little heartache yourself (or experiencing some guilt for causing your ex heartache). But fear not, my brave friend. You are not alone. Following are some do's and don'ts that should make moving on that much easier.

Don't: Call, email, text or visit your ex in a moment of weakness
"Even though you brought on the breakup, there may still be times when you miss your ex.
Even though you brought on the breakup, there may still be times when you miss your ex." A song might come on the radio that reminds you of them. Something funny will happen and you'll want to share it. Or maybe you're just having a bad day and want to reach out and reconnect.
STOP RIGHT THERE. Missing your ex is one thing. Contacting your ex is a no-no. In fact, reconnecting with your ex is the absolute worst thing you can do right now. So before you have that moment of weakness, remove your ex's number from your cell phone, delete their email address, and take them off your social networking contacts. (Right now.)

My say: Error #1 I reconnect with her specially times when I felt alone... I knew someone who didn't delete his ex number but destroy her sim card... well I think it's the right thing to do but it's been my number for 4-5 years now.

Do: Ask friends for help
Because you initiated the breakup, your friends may not know that you're hurting. But if you are, it's important to ask for help, a.k.a. recruit your Boo-Hoo Crew. You'll want to choose a least three friends who know you well enough to know when you need comfort versus when you need a kick in the pants.
Your Boo-Hoo Crew should always know (and be able to remind you) why your ex wasn't good for you
Your Boo-Hoo Crew should always know (and be able to remind you) why your ex wasn't good for you then, and why they're definitely not worth pining over now.

My Say: I got 3 set of friends, Our friends which couldn't be bias, they are basically neutral when it comes to us. My high school friends which i can't understand sometimes they felt sorry for the 6 years lost. Since they are all boys and pros when it comes to the cheating side they told me that why do I need to break up with her "if pwede namang tumakas" I'm not really that type I couldn't lie no more to her I don't want to pile up sins after sins after sins... it's just not me. And my friendly friends they are the potential Boo-Hoo Crew which I usually share my love stories with...

Don't: Second-guess your decision
After a breakup, it's all too easy to second-guess yourself and your choices. Did I do the right thing? Should I have given him/her another chance? Maybe there was more I could do to make it work... The truth is, you can make yourself crazy second-guessing your decision. But what's done is done. You had your reasons, made your decision, and now it's time to accept and move on.

My Say: Why am I so fickle?... I made the decision I should stick to it right? And what so ironic about it is I used to listen to the song WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN - "I’m ready this time I know that I’m No longer undecided Don’t wanna be a fool wondering What might have been" Maybe I should read lesson #1 again and again till my brain gets numb.

Do: See your breakup for what it really is
You may not know it right now, but in ending your relationship with the wrong person, you're paving the way to meet the right one. Chances are good that you won't meet Mr. or Ms. Right overnight, but that doesn't mean the breakup was a bad decision.
By walking away from that wrong relationship, you're headed towards a life that's more honest and authentic for you.
By walking away from that wrong relationship, you're headed towards a life that's more honest and authentic for you. What better way to eventually attract your perfect partner than by living and loving your own life?

My Say: This is my favorite part. "Attracting someone by living and loving myself" Yes! I've been hiding inside myself lately, the next time I love no more lies, no more pretending.. I'm not gonna let someone stop me from doing what I want again for some selfish reasons and I'm gonna make sure she'll trust me 101%.

Don't: Badmouth your ex
In the aftermath of a breakup it's all too easy to badmouth your ex, spilling their dirty little secrets to anyone who will listen. Don't do it. Badmouthing your ex may feel good momentarily, but the fallout from those harmless snarky comments can be detrimental to your healing process, not to mention your dating future. Breakup karma is a bitch you don't want coming after you, so zip the lip and move on with dignity.

My Say: What I'm telling my friends are true, though majority of it is on my side but I make sure that my ex wouldn't look bad to them. I always say to them that I there is always sides on every story. It's just my side their listening into but maybe my ex side is much more rational than mine... It's the matter of who's side are you...

Do: Become a breakup rock star
And speaking of moving on, did you know that you can not only survive your breakup but actually thrive? By applying the lessons you learned from your last relationship, and refining what you want out of life and eventually from your perfect partner, you have the chance to reclaim yourself and become the ultimate breakup rock star. So go ahead, rock on!

My say: LET'S ROCK & ROLL!!!